September 19, 2019


In part 1, Birthday Party Gone Awry, I considered the significance of the dance at Herod’s birthday party.  For it was the dance that put the fate of John the Baptist in a girl’s hand.  Here, I reflect on Jesus’ response to the tragic news.  

Matthew 14:13 says, “Now when Jesus heard this, he withdrew from there in a boat to a desolate place by himself.”

John the Baptist played a unique role in the life and minist...

September 10, 2019

It was the best birthday party ever!  I was turning 9.

After Sunday church service, we headed to our local McDonald’s.  A section of the restaurant was marked reserved by red and yellow balloons.  The hostess welcomed us by directing our excitement to a pile of empty BigMac styrofoam containers (this was pre recycled paper wrappers and I’m convinced, when the sandwich patties were bigger) and Happy Meal boxes for some friendl...

March 17, 2019

Similar to Lot, the likelihood that my life could have little to no impact toward what is good and beautiful is eerily real. I could be swept into the currents of mindless living by spending hours scrolling social media leaving behind a trail of emojis. It’s possible to live absent of thoughtful engagement.

November 2, 2018

During our recent Naked and Unashamed Marriage Conference, my husband and I were sharing about living forgiven and forgiving.  As the group we were speaking to wrestled with what forgiveness entailed, I was yet again reminded of how the practice is both familiar and foreign. 

We know intellectually that forgiveness is a necessity to thriving, maturing, intimate relationships.  We ask for it, wait for it, desire it, and eve...

July 21, 2018

I am officially the shortest in my family.  I knew the day was fast approaching when I didn’t have to tilt my head downward to make eye contact with my girls.  One day, I was kneeling to speak to them; now, I either tiptoe to their height or they bow their faces for a kiss.

Feeling small is familiar.  In my elementary school photos, you can find me seated at the first row.  And there are definite advantages to being this h...

March 21, 2018

We met three different times over a five months span.  We came from diverse backgrounds and experiences but what brought us together was a shared commitment to engage stories of harm and trauma with wisdom, kindness and strength.  The staff at The Allender Center was our teacher and guide.  Then it came; the final hours.  We were invited to one last meal.

There were three or four stations, two people at each stat...

February 6, 2018

My torso leaned over the kitchen island.  My hands clasped together while reaching for my daughter.  I was ready.  Whatever the confession, I was ready to welcome her with grace.  But she shook her head.  “I don’t want to. … It’s too hard, mom.”  She looked up, made contact then looked back down.

I saw her struggle.  The thought crossed my mind; I could end all this – the agony of vulnerability.  The pa...

December 19, 2017

Some things are always in season. 

I was at the mall for some Christmas shopping.  I walked by one window display with a mannequin dressed in the latest fashion – stirrups.  I grinned as I thought back to my middle school days and my first pair.

Fashion trends come and go.  Not so with forgiveness.  It’s in constant demand.   The DNA of relationships naturally drives the need.  All relationships are fraught with tension, co...

November 7, 2017

I didn’t want to sign the papers.  It didn’t seem fair. Why was my name being tarnished?  Why was I paying for someone else 's mistakes?  

The attorney’s office was an hour away.  Each freeway marker indicated that we were further away from home and closer to the dreaded moment.  I phased in and out.  One minute, I felt stick to my stomach.  The next moment, I felt numb and detached.

The logic propelling the...

September 9, 2017

Pumpkin spiced lattes, advertisements for u-pick apple farms, rusty colored foliage, hooded sweatshirts, and cooler mornings and nights.  They are signs that fall is here.  But when did summer end?

This post is a look back at one particular experience from this summer.  I’m taking time to remember and honor it because I fear that if I don't, it will get catalogued into “Summer 2017”, sit idle, and collect dust.  It’s one t...

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